Pain is a terrible thing to have to deal with and as a child a suffered with migraines that left me debilitated as I could not stand noise, light, I couldn’t even walk and threw up. I had to go to the hospital to get an injection to put me to sleep the pain was so unbearable. Finally, at the age of thirteen the migraines stopped and the rashes to jewelry started and I still cannot wear anything but good gold to this day. My son has migraines and he suffers the same way I did.
I know the pain he suffers and it hurts me to see him in so much pain so I started my own brand of therapy to help him. Pain worsens as we tense up so to help relieve the pain one must relax, which isn’t so easy to do. I take my son into my room and we lie down together and spoon with me lieing behind him, I place my hand on his forehead and press lightly and talk very softly to him as I use my other hand to slowly run through his hair.
I can feel his body begin to relax and eventually he is able to fall asleep and he sleeps for up to eighteen hours. Migraines are no different from any other type of serious pain and it takes more than medication to help relieve the pain. I have been able to teach my son how to wipe the slate clean in his brain, I tell him to look at the chalk board in his brain and look at all the writing and then walk up to the board and take the eraser and erase it clean.
I tell him this is his brain and he no longer has any thoughts as his brain is empty and I tell him to breath through his nose and exhale slowly through his mouth. His brain is empty of thought and his body begins to relax with the breathing. As I speak to him softly he is able to take control of the tenseness he feels and let it go and this is a wonderful way to help reduce pain, most people think I am crazy but this is a tried and true method.
It has to do with the person’s voice that is talking to you and what they say as the brain digests the words and the presentation of the speech and this in turn with the breathing is a true miracle worker. I have tried many different medications over the years with Ry and I can tell you my personal method works better than anything as I speak very softly and deliberate as I guide him mentally into a place of peace. I started this when he was four as all I could give him was motrin, which didn’t help.
When my husband lost his leg and I was finally able to bring him home he had terrible pain as his stump was healing. I tried the same method with him and I will be damned it worked as I was able to get him so relaxed the pain was reduced considerably. I am not a pain specialist but I do take illness very seriously and try to find a solution to it or I try my own methods and see how they work, some have worked fantastic and some have not worked at all.
I have no tolerance for pain and that is how I developed my method of pain reduction as I read about pain, the causes and how to reduce it with breathing and I added the visualization and have found it to be very effective. You have to give yourself up to blankness and people have a difficult time giving up control of their own thoughts because they do not trust others, which is to be expected but once you listen very closely and want to find relief it helps it truly does.
My step daughter called me a few days ago and told me Ry was in terrible pain and how did I help him, I told her what to do but she wasn’t able to help him and I wasn’t allowed to go to him, which really pissed me off because he needed me and only me because I developed a method (or so I think) that works and it takes the right tone of voice, the right amount of pressure on the area of pain, the right words and the right visualization.
I am so hoping that the kids can come home next week so I can be there for Ry when he needs me and I can help him as I cannot stand to see anyone suffer from pain and I do have the ability to lessen it considerably or all together. I prefer holistic medicine to conventional medicine because the dangers are so great from medication and the side affects can be devastating as was the case with Shel, I had her get the gardisil shots, three separate injections and the company that developed it was aware of the side effects and the government was as well as they made the pharmaceutical company put money aside to cover patients that suffered from the side affects.
The third injection Shel had didn’t hit her until about ten minutes later as we were walking out of the dr. office where she immediately passed out and landed on her face. Her jaw was snapped off her skull and fractured down the middle of her chin. She was hospitalized for three days and had to have emergency surgery and her jaw wired shut, no one could understand her but me and it was a terrible time for her, I did some research and found out about the fund and filed on her behalf.
She received a settlement of $30,000 dollars which she begins to receive in January on her 18th birthday, of course they won’t give it to her all at once but at least she is being compensated for her suffering. This is why I am so adamant on learning about medication and illnesses, between my son, my husband and my daughter my focus has become on preventing suffering in my family and I doubt I will ever stop learning as I have been able to help others and that is rewarding for me.