People become obsessed with another generally for the lifestyle they live or what they may have and a perfect example is anyone famous. People fantasize about living that lifestyle or being as talented or gifted as the person they obsess about. Most famous people have had been stalked which is an obsession to the extreme and others will go to the extreme of attending every game, concert, play ect. when someone becomes obsessed with another it has to do with a deep desire to fill an emptiness in their life and they will follow the other person’s every move, when possible.
When you become obsessed with someone your fantasies build and you find yourself becoming lost in thought of this person constantly. Obsession can hurt your reality and keep you from being happy because you can never replace the person you are obsessed with and you compare everyone else to that person. When you do this, you will never find anyone that is good as your obsession and you cannot have healthy relationships in your life. If you are involved or married the obsession slowly destroys that relationship because you constantly compare your signficant other with the person you obsess about.
Obsession can destroy you over time if you let it and you really need to stop the obsession for your own well-being and sometimes you are fortunate enough to meet the person you are obsessed over. If you can meet your obsession I would highly recommend it because your life is in a holding pattern and you are not growing as you should. Meeting your obsession leads to one of three things, you are either greatly disappointed, find the person to be actually average or you fall seriously head over heels in love.
The change of falling head over heels is rare because there usually is no connection between the two of you and the obsession is also generally one sided. If the connection has grown over time then the changes of falling in love with the person is more than possible and the reason most people do not meet their obsession is fear of rejection. Most famous people are used and abused because of who they are and they are used to being given everything and everyone they have ever wanted. When the obsessed is famous and they find someone who doesn’t have any interest in them for their fame they get confused and unsure of who and what they are.
Famous people get lost in their own fame because that is what is elevated in other’s eyes and they feel the pressure to live up to their public’s expectations but when real life slaps them the do not know how to “go home again” and be who they really are. The best thing a famous person can do for themselves is to meet their obsession and let the cards fall as they may and if they let their guard down enough to be who they really are they will find peace within themselves and let go of the obsession and live a life of somewhat normalcy.
I think it’s harder for the famous person when they become obsessed with another because they have been waited on hand and foot and everyone kisses their ass and they learn never to trust anyone. The famous person doesn’t understand rejection in any form because it doesn’t happen to them. They become so fearful of being themselves and afraid of being rejected for that person that they fear taking the step that will resolve the issue of the obsession.
I am not an insecure person and do not fear meeting anyone and I have never obsessed over anyone in my life, it’s just not my way. I have someone obsessed with me and I invited him to dinner and of course he didn’t show which was no surprise. I really like this person for the person and nothing more but he is so afraid that he will not live up to the expectations that he has learned to conform to and if he would just take a step to meet me he would find he wouldn’t be rejected but he wouldn’t get to pull the bullshit he is used to pulling on others.
He is insecure even though so many think he is a solid man but he has lost himself in the fame game and that makes him insecure because he is used to expensive and fancy and it’s expected of him because of his standing in life. His obsession with me causes him great anxiety which is not good but only he can make the move to meet me and put his fears to rest. He doesn’t realize if we were to meet that it would be like to old friends meeting because I feel that secure with myself and I have no interest in dressing him down unless he acts likes he is “all that”.
I have never had anyone afraid of meeting me before and it makes me sad that he feels so insecure and fears rejection from me. He is a tender, shy soul that needs love and care just like anyone else but his fear is so great that he will not let himself experience what he needs to find real happiness within himself. He is more than welcome to meet me when he becomes secure enough and he would find that he actually enjoys a simple person that just likes to laugh and enjoy life without the jets, diamonds, trips to France for dinner, ect.