People do not think that the disabled want and need sex but they do and it takes a special person to see beyond the disability and see the person and their wants and needs. When my husband became disabled he felt undesirable and shame for his disability and he no longer felt like a man. We tried the conventional boring sexual position but it was a no go because he couldn’t balance very well and we tried every position manageable until we found the one that worked for us. Our sex life was disabled by numerous health issues but I knew it was up to me to build him up again and I tried, God knows I tried.
As always I was slow and encouraged him and one day I was finally able to bring him to a place where he could physically perform and even though it was half baked, we were able to have sex. My husband had a clotting disorder which affected him greatly but I refused to give up and kept building him up and one day, yes one day he felt like a man again. People fear what they do not understand but I never feared him regardless of his disabilities and I focused on stimulating his mind and then his body.
So many disabled people are afraid to have sex because they fear lack of performance and if they are given a lead, an opportunity, a chance you will find that sex can be as wonderful with that person as with anyone else and in many ways it can be better because the disabled lean heavily on intimacy and women love love love intimacy because he shows a man cares for the woman besides sexually. I pretended to have the same disabilities my husband had and I was able to understand so much more.
There needs to be movies made to show people who a disability need not scare you away and fear being with that person.