Integrity is the key to a good life. Destiny and well-being depend on it. Our confidence, our openness to love and intimacy, our ability to stay close to God, all come and go according to how well we follow our hearts. In integrity we live; without it we die. Being untrue to your heart will destroy your life, and create your own personal hell. But if you follow your heart, it will create heaven on earth for you. Each moment in life, each choice, is a fork in the road. Which way will we go? Where will we end up? It depends on how well we obey our hearts. In the chart below, you can see how your integrity (or lack thereof) shapes your destiny.
When we violate our own feelings about what’s right and what we should be doing, we shut down, and turn away from happiness, love, and all the most beautiful things in life — we just don’t think beauty fits us well, so we reject it. But when we follow our hearts and our conscience, we open up to life, and let it flood in. You can see it in the lives of everyone you know. When a person does wrong — unless they decide to fix it — they will quickly distance themselves from everyone they love.
They no longer want to be happy, because it just doesn’t seem fitting. And if you reach out to them in such a compressed state, you will have a hard time getting through. On the other hand, when a person is living rightly and beautifully, they become bright and happy. They are outgoing. They want to talk. They want to relate closely with people. They become permeable to love; and they become robust on the basis of receiving love and exchanging love in helpful, meaningful, uplifting ways. Integrity determines how open we are to love, and God, and good; and that’s why it is so important. Because in openness, everything is allowed to live, but in closedness, everything is condemned to die.
The rich get richer and the poor get poorer, and it all begins with integrity. “To thine own self be true” ends the destructive cycle that is put in motion when we ignore our heart’s own feelings. What we feel is important is what matters TOP Of course, not all negative actions are equally consequential, and neither are all positive actions. How strongly an action or choice affects your destiny depends on how important it is to you. If it is crucial to your heart, then it is crucial. No matter if it seems trivial to others, no matter if it would be called unimportant by religion or culture. There could be something no one else has ever heard of, or has any concern about whatsoever; but it’s that by which you live or die, that by which you are condemned or praised within your own heart. If a person sincerely believes they should become more disciplined, they will feel terrible if they don’t. It will hang over their head like a dark cloud, changing the tone of their life for the worse — even if nobody else cares about it.
For that individual there is no greater condemnation than that which they would visit upon themselves for having betrayed their own heart. That shows exactly how personal this really is. It makes no difference what anyone else says; a person is condemned only by their own hand. So when you get to Heaven’s gate, and Peter asks you, “What accounting would you like to give of yourself? Is there anything you’ve done you’re not proud of?” and you give your account, he will then ask, “And what do you think is the significance of that? Would you go ahead and jump into hell for it? Do you think that would be an appropriate destiny? If so, there it is. Jump.” Nobody would push you. You would jump because you didn’t want to be loved. You would jump because you wanted to hide. You see, no one would have to do anything about it; it’s all up to you. You would jump on your own account.
There is no condemnation other than one’s own self-condemnation. That, in fact, is what we do every day: We either jump into hell, because we feel bad about ourselves, or our hearts soar into heaven, due to the happiness and elevation we feel from a right and loving life. Or perhaps we hang in purgatory, because we are dissatisfied with our lives, though not dramatically guilt-ridden. And that’s the long and short of our entire existence. We are condemned or resurrected by our own fidelity to ourselves; by our integrity, as measured only by our own heart standards. No other measure stands. Self-condemnation: a dirty trick TOP But in truth, self-condemnation is never appropriate.
It is a dirty trick of the ego, designed to bring one down. It is not God’s will that we should so harshly condemn ourselves. Only the ego would interpret our wrongdoing to mean that we are bad, irredeemable, wretched creatures. Only the ego would respond to guilt by shutting down, and dropping out of life. The spirit knows better. The spirit recognizes that no matter what we do, we are good, and we are capable of good. And when we see that we have done wrong, the spirit would jump to correct it, and to heal it; rather than steep in shame and self-hatred. We don’t need to condemn ourselves. But it is good and godly that we condemn our wrong actions, and that we reject badness.
That is our Divine sensitivity at work. So, this is not a clarion call to throw away the power of discernment; only to realize that we are not what we do. Our actions do not change the person we essentially are. They do not rid us of the basic goodness and sensitivity that God placed in our hearts. So, we can always renounce bad, and turn to the good that our hearts always call us to. Discernment still stands TOP In this “brave new world,” many people understand the idea that they are good no matter what they have done. But few understand that that does not eliminate the need for morality. The New Agers boldly proclaim: “We are free of these ideas of right and wrong, good and evil.
We are good children of God, no matter what.” To that I would respond: “Yes, you are good children of God no matter what. But if you don’t live that, what good does it do for anybody? Do you feel good about that?” It is true integrity to condemn the actions your heart hates — actions that violate the law of love, which is your heart’s law. Those actions should be condemned, because they are hurtful, and they are not true to who you really are. Two apparent problems with “to thine own Self be true” TOP 1. What about God? When I say, “It doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks. You have to do what your heart says is right,” one question that may arise is: “But what about God? What about the promptings God gives in every moment? Don’t you need to surrender to those in order to be right?” It may seem like a contradiction, but the conflict is overcome when you realize that God’s Heart is your own heart. God gave you His Heart.
Your sensibilities and sensitivities are no different than God’s. When you feel moved to help someone in need, when you feel guilty for doing wrong, when your heart responds lovingly to another human being, that is God in you. So, to do right by God is to do right by your own heart. God is not some external authority, telling you what to do. God is inside you, and not different from you. You are made from God. Thus, there is no difference between satisfying God, and satisfying your own heart. The two are the same. Isn’t that beautiful? 2. What about others? Many people think that to “follow your heart” means to be whimsical, inconsiderate, selfish, and non-committal.
But tell me honestly: how do you feel about whimsical, flakey people? Following your heart has been given a bad name in this world. In truth, no human heart would ever approve of selfish, whimsical living. Like I said, your heart is the Heart of God. The very Heart that would rail against the injustices of the world, that would nag you when you are letting somebody down, that would inspire you to do right by others. People who say they are “following their heart” when they are actually living selfishly are confused. They are ignoring their heart. They have become experts at suppressing the cries of their heart for rightness, love, commitment, loyalty, reliability — all qualities that the human/Divine heart values highly.
So, once again, there is no conflict. As long as you are in line with your own heart, you will do right by God and all others. “To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night follows day, thou canst not then be false to any man.” — William Shakespeare Life is an integrity test TOP So that’s it. Now you understand the whole thing. The entire evolutionary career is an integrity test. Everything else is absolutely irrelevant. Until heaven and earth pass away, not a single letter will be removed from the law of your heart — which is the law of love and rightness. That’s all that counts in life. So, be true to yourself; and all will be well.
Some people have been hurt so much in their lives that close off a part of themselves to others but they continue to search for what eludes them. They search and search and more often than not they fall into bed with someone who physically attracts them, the relationship is easy, safe and not all to demanding and they stay in the situation even though they are content but never happy. I lived in a relationship exactly like that and it was never fulfilling as I floated through each day wondering if I would ever be happy.
I know what it’s like to sleep next to someone and not feel love, just a lot of caring and I know what it’s like to live a lie as I smiled and pretended life was good, when in fact it was far from good that even I couldn’t run and hide from it. It’s so damn hard ending a relationship because of the failure, the denial, the crap the two of you have collected. You do not want tears, screaming and yelling and you do not want to hurt the other person but it is inevitable if you are to find your happiness.
We lie to others, we lie to ourselves but we know, o yes we know what is in our hearts and what is not and we finally blow up and put blame on the other person because it’s easier to point blame to another when the fact of the matter is, it is us all along. So many people stay in a relationship because it is safe and they will not leave it until they have another in the wings, this is wrong and it hurts all involved one way or the other.
Once you begin to feel self worth again then and only then do you make the move to make your life richer and happier and those that stay in a situation that is less than appealing only find themselves building up resentment towards their mate as if it were their fault. When we take full responsibility for our actions and our feelings is when we begin to grow spiritually and letting go of what no longer serves us is the first step to your “happy highway”.
Some things never change and the bullshit is always in the air, same game different name as I call it. Pretending you are not with someone, maybe that someone is someone different, someone with a different name but you still play the same fucking game. Pretending to care what is happening in my life is lame, truly fucking lame while you hang up when she walks in the room. Sitting outside watching traffic and the people yet there is dead silence behind you.
Games people play are foolish and do not serve anybody, being upset because I chose to move to another state? Why the fuck do you even care what I do? Why do you have to know every thought, every feeling that I may have? You’re the one lieing to yourself, to her and living a hopeless, lost existence while I prefer to be honest and lay it on the line. What do you hope to gain?? The money is gone and not so easily obtainable from this fish yet you continue to try to get me to jump up your pole into your boat.
You are a clown’s fool, a foolish man living in a make-believe land all of your own making and I will not be sucked into your cesspool of bullshit. I am a friend nothing more and never will be anything else because you are not worthy of my love, my commitment, my gifts or my talents. You will never know what I am really like because you do not have the balls to ever face me and we both know that, we play games and tell each other sweet lies but that is all there is, I am surprised you the great one has not figured out it is nothing but a game of lies.
Whatever you do, do not do anything to put your current relationship at risk, hell no you must have a woman because you do not see enough in yourself without one. Stay in a relationship that is dull and boring for all I care because you grow older by the day and you settle for so much less than you could have but that is you, play it safe instead of going for the brass ring, live in an unsatisfying relationship until you can hook up with someone else first, that’s your way-a weak man’s way.
Try as I may it is time for me to slowly slip away and I am doing what is right for me for a change and not thinking of anyone else. He let’s me slip away and I am nothing put water through open fingers and it’s ok because life is happy, life is becoming settled and easy, as it should be. We cannot hold onto someone who doesn’t want to be held, and we cannot control them and make them stay in our lives, we have to let them be free to find their own way.
If someone wants to be with you they will and if they don’t well obviously they won’t make an effort to keep you in their lives. It’s my time to slip away and he watches from the comfort of his home which is nothing but bricks and mortar when he is alone. I tried so hard to reach him but my arms were always to short and I was never enough but he taught me one thing, never change who I am and that is something that I have held onto.
I’m not the best, I’m not the prettiest but I am the best for me as I can be at this time and as time goes on I will become better at being me, as I slip away….
Last night was fun as we went out to dinner and then to see the movie “Oz”, I had been wanting to see it because I like movies with effects and even though it is a kids movie it was full of cool effects like when the lake fairies attack Oz. The movie is a spin off of the real wizard of oz and the kids sitting down the row from me were sitting on the edge of their seats, remember when you were a kid and a movie had you sitting on the edge?
It was more entertaining watching those kids than the movie but it still had its moments. It’s not often that a kids movie attracts my attention and the last one that did was Happy Feet which I saw at the Imax eons ago. It was a nice laid back evening but I was so tired by the time the movie was over I couldn’t wait to crawl into bed and fall into a blissful sleep, which is exactly what I did. It’s nice to have someone hang with you even though they have no interest in something you may be interested in.
It’s nice when someone will be with you just because they want to spend time with you even if they find that particular outing boring as hell, which was the case. I did hear a few chuckles and an occasion laugh but I do have to admit if I were to go see it again I would take a detour to Walmart’s instead. Happy feet kept my attention but Oz lacked in something that was needed to keep my eyes open and I slumped back into the theatre chair taking cat naps.
Dinner was a riot as a took my shoe off under the table and played “footsie pool” which is similar to pocket pool but you use your foot. I so love to catch people off guard and do an occasion shock affect move on them and that was what I had done and he was shocked but damn it fun watching him turn beat red and squirm in his seat. After dinner we went to the theatre and sat in the car making out like to high school sweethearts and as things got heated it was time for the movie.
We walked hand in hand into the theatre like two Cheshire cats and it was fun, fun like when I was so much younger and dumber and I enjoyed the hell out of. Life is good these days and it’s full of laughter and good times, which I so need. It’s nice to be with someone who appreciates you and gets a kick out of you, they laugh and joke, get silly but are still real with no games, lies or bullshit to deal with and that is the way I like my relationships to go.