So many people meet Catfishers online, people who start online relationships and sometimes they are ligit but more often than not they are not. Catfishing is so common these days and the fisher never gets on video chat with their prey. Sometimes, it’s a female pretending to be a male or vice versa and they start a friendship that ends up being so much more.
Sometimes, it’s a scammer trying to get money and sometimes it’s just someone bored that enjoys the online communication and yes sometimes, both people or at least one builds some very deep feelings. There is the rare occasion when soulmates meet online but this is very rare and extremely unique by design. It’s so damn harmful to Catfish someone because it can severely damage that person emotionally.
How do these relationships happen? Quite simple, people are bored or to busy to meet one on one and they rely on technology, someone befriends someone else, they chat and become online friends. Anonomynity is safe and it allows us to open ourselves up telling someone we have never met very personal things about ourselves because we fee safe.
We can tell that person anything because quite frankly we feel completely and utterly safe from reprisal or judgement most of the time. I have fallen into the Catfish pond as well as I have buried every family member that I had a good relationship with and I have no one. I am also a writer, I write all the time just to release emotions that I have as I am a very emotional woman.
I was quite naive when I started surfing the net and yes I got scammed and played but I have since learned so much and know so much better. I have also fallen for someone online who has played with me like a toy which I find to be so cruel. It’s not nice to play with people and I have forgiven him because if I didn’t I would hate myself and I refuse to do that.
I no longer wait for him to meet me as he has had more than a million opportunities to do so and he has chosen not to so I keep looking for Mr. Right in my own hood. Don’t ask me why I am so attracted to this person because it isn’t his appearance or his financial status, I’m just attracted to him and have been long before I knew or so I think I know who he is.
Regardless of who he is there is this tremendous pull towards him and even though I have seen other men I am always drawn back to him. Maybe I am crazy but in my heart I feel as if we are soulmates, as if we belong together for some unknown reason. It’s as if we have something to accomplish but cannot do it with anyone but each other and together we could and would change the world for the better.