When I was in high school I tried pot, mescaline, thc and drinking but none of it impressed me enough to want to do it again. When I reached my late teens and early twenties I smoked pot occasionally and did quite a bit of cocaine. cocaine became my drug of choice and my emotional pain killer and I spent a ton of cash on it because it made me feel good and I was always chasing that initial high never being able to catch it again.
I haven’t done any hard drugs in decades but still smoke a joint now and then and yes I have a medical marijuana card which makes me legal. My children on the other hand are quite different when it comes to drugs as Shelby has never tried anything including smoking cigarettes but Ry well he has smoked pot and done other drugs and he came to me this morning telling me he did a hit of acid last night because he wanted to know what it was like.
I didn’t get mad, didn’t yell or tell him I was disappointed in him because kids will experiment and I was no different. I listened to him as he told me how it made him feel and I asked him if he would do it again and he said no. I said to him “liar” and he smiled and said he wouldn’t do it again. It doesn’t do a damn bit of good to yell at our kids and listening is what they need.
I am scared for my son because today’s drugs are laced with so much shit and they are very dangerous. Being honest with our kids and being there for them to talk to on their own terms is so important and I have a good enough relationship with the kids that they tell me things most kids won’t talk to their parents about. When you don’t go hay nonnie crazy on your kids they begin to trust you and tell you things that they normally wouldn’t.
Ry is growing so much this year and last night he asked a girl to Homecoming and he told me about it this morning. I am so happy for him because the girl said yes and it’s tough for a boy to ask out a girl for fear of rejection but my son asked and yes they are going. These are monumental steps for my son and I support him as much as I can and he confides in me, can you say the same thing?