There are people who feel the need to control everyone in their lives and they do this because they feel threatened and are insecure around those that have an uncontrollable energy. People are controlled by their own energy and when they have a heightened awareness of their this energy it is shown in many different ways and positive energy comes out in the form of the person being exuberant and funny.
When the negative energy comes forth is is shown in the way of anger and this is something that must be experienced so the person can let go of that negativity and replace it with positive thinking and expression of self. We should never want to control another person and most of us that appear “uncontrollable” are not uncontrollable at all but instead are in need of someone who can understand the person’s level of energy.
Energy can never be destroyed but it can be redirected and it doesn’t take much to redirect anyone and their level of energy. Anyone that has a lot of positive energy can change another’s life quite easily and if you feel threatened by that person then you are suffering from insecurity. No one can control everything in their lives and those that feel they must always be in control really need to learn to let go and let others take the lead for a change.
Men that think they want to control a woman doesn’t so much want to control her as to have her conform to their way of thinking and acting. Theses men are unable to accept the woman for the person she is because she has control over her own inner strength and this can be very intimidating to a man. What really attracts a man to a woman is her ability to be funny, independent, emotionally mature and attractive.
Being attractive can mean many things to many people but we are attracted to outer beauty first and then as we discover the person’s inner thinking we see ourselves being attracted even more or being turned off by the woman’s inner self. The inner self can be quite beautiful yet it also can be very ugly and that is why no amount of beauty will hold a man’s interest when the inner person is ugly.
You cannot change ugly in anyone because the power to change that trait lies within the person and many things could have happened to this person’s life to make them harbor such negative energies. This type of person must learn to deal with problematic energy and they need to learn how to overcome what has made such a deep indent on their lives. One should learn to let go of anger and even I still wrestle with my own anger at people who have done me wrong.
I do not blame anyone solely for my lot in life because I believe in reincarnation, karma and soul mates and I believe everything happens for a reason. We may not understand why things happen but we do learn from each and every bad thing that happens in our lives. Some people are born with a silver spoon in their mouths and others are born with a spoon full of shit in theirs and that is just the way it is.
The next time you feel the need to control someone step back and ask yourself why you wish to control this person, what is it about them that makes you want to change them and learn to accept people for who they are. Everyone expresses themselves in different ways and someone in a great amount of inner pain may appear to be totally silly and outrageous but the truth is they are expressing themselves the only way they know how to deal with that pain.