Jealousy Controls

I used to be so jealous and it was a controller of my relationships, thank goodness that was in my twenties and younger. Jealousy can not only destroy a relationship it can also destroy the person feeling it. I finally out grew the controlling nature of jealousy and I still do get jealous, I think.

I am controlled by my emotions but that doesn’t include jealousy and controlling others. I do not like to be with a jealous person that cannot keep their emotions in check and I do not give others reason to be jealous. People use jealousy like they use love and it is quite unhealthy.

Jealousy seems to stem from insecurity and if you make me feel insecure once to often then there is no room for you in my life. I haven’t felt insecure in a relationship in so long I almost cannot remember how it feels, which is good. I do not need to make others feel insecure because I do not stay in any type of relationship that requires jealousy for validation.

Jealousy isn’t all bad and sometimes it is good but not to the degree that it leads to a huge blow up between two people. Every once in a while a healthy dose of jealousy can awaken what seems to have died. There are times when I have been accused of doing something I didn’t which provoked a jealous episode in someone.

I cannot help it if people are attracted to me or my personality and I cannot help it that I like men, I like them a lot as people and I do not lead anyone on. Men are naturally drawn to me and I have no idea why, really I do not it just happens and I get a long with gay men wonderfully, but don’t most women?

I have been in situations where I have been accused of “playing around” with another guy when I was with someone but that wasn’t true. I do not like to argue with anyone and making someone jealous will start an argument that doesn’t need to occur. I prefer to lavish my lover with attention, not someone who has no meaning in my life.

Attraction

The law of attraction is very specific and what you think about is what you attract to yourself. This includes everything in our lives, love, negativity, jealousy everything and everything you want you can have if you focus good energy in that direction.

I have been doing that lately thinking positive about a relationship and meeting someone at the very least and low and behold I have met someone new. I would have liked to of had a go with the other one but he prefers to stay anonymous and out of reach.

Hell I even picked up a stick and tried to reach him and that didn’t do a damn bit of good either. I have tried and I have finally ran out of ideas so I guess he’s on his own. You can tell someone who they are looking at their soul mate but if they won’t look you can’t make them.

I do not know what he wants me to do or what he wants from me but I obviously am not able to fit into his life at this time and probably never. He has waved the “big business” crap in my face like I am so impressed, not, he better take a damn good look at where he is at in his life.

He is obviously happy where he is at in his life or he would change it and he would grab what he cannot buy but some people just aren’t smart enough to go after what they really want when they should. I cannot wait and will not wait any longer.

Yes, I am going to start going out and start dating and have met someone of interest but we shall see if there is enough connection that I would invite him to the States. I’m in no hurry to do anything but be happy and enjoy life and the fall weather.

I did receive another call from my new interest and we chatted for over two hours and I am really enjoying our conversations. He is such a gentleman and so damn romantic he is starting to really turn my head and I’m thinking I might want to know him better.

Multi-Dating

How do you feel about dating more than one person at a time? Or living with someone and you are the new flavor and she has become nothing but “filler” in his life? There are people that must have someone in their life at all times and others like myself that doesn’t need that space constantly filled.

Some people need to have feelings stronger for someone else before they can make the move they know they should have made a long time ago. The relationship is comfortable and she has been there for him and they like each other as people.

He just doesn’t feel the spark and fireworks he wants to feel, he feels it when he is talking with the other one and of course she is none the wiser. They meet, click, really click and then he has some tough work to do and his life becomes hell for a while.

He is willing to do what he must to finally have what he has wanted for so long and she is finally here with him by his side and he is feeling everything ten fold now. He makes his presence known to her online by the fb pokes and the subtle posts.

I think you should make your move first and then do your searching because to many emotions get involved and people get hurt. I hope that isn’t the case here but one never knows now does one? Wouldn’t it be scary for me to open the room door to a midget, bald and talks like a munchkin? lol

Jealousy

Have you ever wondered what makes us feel jealous? What puts the defensive mode in action? Why do some people feel none or very little jealousy while others are overtaken by it? I was watching a movie and there were two girls/women talking and one was quite obvious jealous and her actions made me stop and think.

I wonder what does cause jealousy? I am being to think it’s part of our past when some of us had to deal with the feeling of “abandonment”. Then I begin to think what if jealousy is a “protective mechanism” and is it normal to feel jealousy to a certain point.

I seem to question quite a few things but this one really has me a bit puzzled. You can always tell when the person you are with begins to show signs of jealousy. They turn cold and ignore you, they’re mood turns from happy or content to unhappy. The one’s that go off the deep end and starts stalking you online or around your home, slashes tires, breaks windows and shit like that is like the third depth of jealousy you can go.

Some people just go on a serious nut and lose control of all common sense. I can understand jealousy but haven’t felt it in so long that I do not recall how it feels. As far as I can remember, jealousy sucks and doesn’t feel good at all. Who in the hell wants to be controlled by their emotions for another person?

I have watched couples together and the woman time and time again does something to stir jealousy in her date. I find this to be very immature and definitely shows lack of maturity required for a committment. So many want the relationship but they want it their way. As far as I’m concerned a relationship with regular bouts of jealousy is not one that will stand the test of time and the “life span” of the relationship is three to six months at best. I’m the type that doesn’t screw around when I am jealous.

 I do remember reminding someone who they were with many moons ago. Ya bitch, you’re with me and if you want to be with someone else, I’m outa here. No games, no beating around the bush, just straight to the brain to really look at and examine.  I do not care for jealousy from myself or others and I think there should never be room for jealousy.

I think to make another jealous is a deliberate way to cause hurt and uncomfortable emotions between two individuals. I would hope that most adults do not even dabble in the jealousy game because it doesn’t do any good for anyone.